My Love Affair with Wine. How do I love thee…let me count the ways?

As the new year begins it is an opportunity to hit the reset button and realign goals that have fallen out of line with your soul. After all the holiday parties and New Year’s Eve celebration, it is reasonable to ask oneself: “to Drink or Not to Drink?”.

Did I overdo it with all of the food and spirits this holiday season? I most certainly did. I tried not to beat myself up about it, but failed short in giving myself grace. As I constantly juggle maintaining balance in my life, when I am out of balance I must nudge myself kindly to adjust when needed. Especially in regard to drinking, not only due to growing up in a home with an alcoholic stepfather but also because of the lives I have seen torn apart by addiction in my work as a counselor. Needless to say, I examine this topic constantly.

My best friend recently sent me a great article by Kristi Coulter titled “Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink”.

She does a good job observing the cultural pressures to drink and it is worth reading. My observation is that we as a culture overindulge: overspending, overeating, overworking, etc. It’s no surprise that over drinking is just another indulgence we participate in.

Here’s what’s new about it: WOMEN. Have you ever noticed the double standard of how our culture views an intoxicated man vs. an intoxicated woman? It’s funny when a guy is drunk but when a girl is drunk… embarrassing? concerning? irresponsible? No more are the Mad Men days of the good ole boys having a drink while the Joan Cleavers wait at the door.

Women are coming out of the social drinking closet. We are embracing wine like someone tried to steal it from us. Why do women drink? In order to drink wine, you must slow down. It is meant to be sipped. The pressure to be a perfect wife, mother, career woman, superwoman leaves us depleted physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Enjoying a glass of wine invites us to be still.